I had arrange marriage due to family pressure 5 years ago. Now at this point of my life, I am not sure if i love my wife. She is a nice person and I've been nothing but supportive of her throughout and have been supporting her through her education but in these 5 years i never had feelings of that euphoria. We don't have other issues. I am just so torned that i would go on and live my life without love. I don't know what i should do.

Euphoria film ma matrai hunchha, if you guys are supportive of each other and dont have any other issues, you are in better condition than most of the people. (My thoughts )

If you keep seeking euphoria in a relationship, then even swarga-loka can do nothing for you! We need to understand that no one is perfect. Our relationships keeps changing through time. Change is the law. It happens. But if you seek euphoria out of this phenomenal process, then good luck! Finite world cannot give you euphoria you looking for. You need to renounce this world, and live like a Sannyasi. Can you do that? If not, stop seeking euphoria from any objects or people from this world. Be content of what you have. Life is one big experiment we perform with ourselves trying to find a permanent satisfaction. However, water seen in the mirage cannot quench our thirst! Similar is the fate of all living being trying to find happiness in this world. They all succumb to death without knowing that the world in which they live is a fantastic long dream. Whatever you are experiencing right now is your own mind. Your wife is absolutely not responsible for how you feel! You experience your own thoughts. If you think you are not experiencing euphoria you seeking for, than you experience such emotions because of your own thoughts and desires. However, if you think divorce is a solution, go ahead and do it. It's merely an another experiment! There is no limit to experiments in our lives. Be content and experience the supreme bliss!

Ujl- I see where you are getting to, which is why i gave 5 years if i would feel something towards my spouse. I do get it life isn't about euphoria and you have to manage ups and downs yourselves but there never was a chance for me to feel if i feel attracted towards or that feeling of love at least for the person that i'll be around my whole life. It's also true people fall out of love but wouldn't it be disservice to my wife as well if can't truly feel connected to her. You may say well people have managed through all life together but i have seen enough disconnect in couples that they don't even enjoy the company of each other. It may well have been covered due to our communal society back home. Here you spend the most time with your significant other and if you don't feel connected you can't help yourself but to be alone and for someone else to judge; it's not possible without passing through similar situation. Have you had a conversation with your wife when you travel that she misses you and you have to say it so even though you don't genuinly feel it. I know it's in my mind but i can't live in someone else's mind as well.

your wife is a nice person and you guys don't have other issues..
LOL..moron that is love

Since age 14 till date i had many girlfriends..some of them were nice and some were really nice..few were crazy and hot too
Now, I am heading towards arrange marriage 'cause euphoria throughout my life ended me with schizophrenia :)

You always have option to get divorce , trying to fall in love, and figure out which one is better :), you never know.

You support her , are nice to her and she is nice to you . Means recipe for good relationship. So what are you expecting more from her? Can you elaborate?

Do you want to feel thrill of meeting GF while you were teenager from this relationship? If that is what you are seekiing, you are wrong and foolish my friend. Hold on to what you have and make best of it since it is already working.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xVxCtt3s_1M

हजुर कति वर्ष को हुनु भयो? भन्न मिल्छ? न रिसाउनु होला है...यसो Psychoanalysis लाइ Generalize गर्न खोज्या.

Not exactly your case. I love my wife. But this forty is not what I thought it would be. The work is routine. Oh! The monotony. Ten years back when I was working in a Gas Station, selling Black N' Milds to Ghetto kids...life was better..thrilling...Now working a decent paying job, a house, a loving family and I reminisce the Gas Station days. Because the thrill is gone. You do what makes you feel better..there is no right or wrong here.

Only recently (that too through a youtube ...old Stanford lecture note) I understood that Robert Frost did not really meant to sound regrets in the 'Road Not Taken'. In the end, he meant, it does not matter.

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could...
..
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Have intimate sex often. My 2 cents

@kalidasbhaisaab- thanks for the suggestion. I get that the thrill we feel when we are young isn't the same when we grow up. Seems you have some age and experience on me. Did you have an arrange marriage? The thing is when i am travelling, I don't even miss my wife much. I feel i have been used to of the experience of my wife being by my side rather than love. I know that i could be completely wrong and while i am trying to feel it this could be completely normal rather i could just be over analyzing it.

Beyourself bro timlai aru kehi bhako hoina...timi bore bhayau aafno marital life dekhi.. maile bihey garera pani bahira bahira maal handai hidne keta haru bheteko chu....timi pani aba bela bela ma thailand gayera chak ko kira marne gari maal padkaune gara sab thik huncha...good luck bro.

@ustadamirkhan - if that were the case i wouldn't have come here to ask your opinion on that matter. Trying to solve a problem with another problem is never right.

:)

A few tips without writing a novel, here.

It looks like you don't know for sure whether your relationship has what is called "Love", am I correct? If that is the case, you will need to do an experiment. Send your wife to her parents (if possible) for about a month. During that time, try to live a regular life -do cooking, cleaning, household chores, etc. by yourself, hand wash your wife's clothes even if they aren't so dirty .....Ok. Don't watch any porn or try to even think about having another girl....put yourself on "self- inflicted" test of a "simple life". Within this period, call her everyday ...tell her that you washed her clothes today....you cooked the food she often liked....keep washing her clothes and try to feel her "omnipresence" now. Question yourself: Am I still ok without her? If you have some sense of "missing" you are in love. Like poet Madhav Ghimire says, if both of you really enjoy having "Peanuts and Oranges" on sunny day while talking about the taste, or both of you like hiking/walking together and enjoy it, remember that you are in love. Otherwise you would not enjoy or even get along with. that euphoria thing is not real and rather a source of "evil" ...forget that ...

Hello, it is good that you came out to share your issue. That is one of the right thing in IMO. I am not sure if I understood your case clearly- however, from the information you shared, I think you are in a kind of confused state. Which is fine from my angle. You spent 5-long years together, that's great! Now you both know each other little bit. It's time to spice up your relationship and make it stronger and grow older. We all (at least majority!) go through this state of confusion- remember a German politician suggested to make marriage an agreement for 7-years only; if you like the marriage renew it, otherwise you both are free birds....

It's about right time (5 years) for the majority of married couples (who are still childless) their relationship is monotonous. Same person, same sex, possibly similar positions: in a way you know what to expect next..... How about taking some leadership role and exploring her more? Have you asked her if she is happy the way it is? Have you tried to change your everyday routine? Have you asked her to go out with you just for fun?  

In the meantime, couples who have kids by 5/6 years, they have some other reasons to continue the relationship- KIDS and that is family! From your post I sensed that you may not have kids yet. If you both want kids, have them...

If I were you, I would ask her: a. how she evaluates the relationship? b. if she wants to be the mom? c. if sex life is juicy enough? I am pretty sure she will bring a novel worth of issues. Then try to find solutions with her for each of the issues. Remember, she is just like you and the mantra is "Compromise". 

Whether you "arranged" or "loved" your marriage, if you have been husband and wife for 5 years, you both love each other.

Therefore, try to understand each other and spice up the relationship! You can do it and it is the right thing to do! Good luck!!!

@ Public.....As far as I know he never loved his wife. It was an arranged marriage for him and he was kinda pressured.

The reason you were pressured in the first place was you were not able to get a girlfriend. But I am sure you know the reason why you were single and why family pressured you. Just try to work it out.